I have an alternative solution that I’ve seen work really well for many couples: If the male partner stops viewing it as women’s work to anticipate what needs to be done, and instead chooses to do his work without being asked, that works really well! And if he is asked to do something, as long as it’s reasonable of course (it usually is), he does it without having to be asked twice, either by getting right on it or telling his partner when she can expect to see it done. Interestingly, I’ve seen bona fide conservative couples who managed to figure this magic formula out, so it’s not like you need to be radical feminists to embrace this frightening new lifestyle. It just requires abandoning the notion that domesticity is emasculating or that open communication is more difficult than it is.
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Nagging: The Personal is Political
(1. Something I hadn’t considered before 2. Part of why I think boyfriend and I’s home relationship works well - if anything he is the one “nagging”)
